Hey Red! Does My Hot Mess Make Me Inadequate?

My clients (family/friends/strangers) always ask for my advice and recommendations on much more than just organizing. And the way I’ve seen it, if one has a question, I’m sure many do. Here’s where I’ll share these tips and answers with you!

Hey Red! Does My Hot Mess Make Me Inadequate?

A friend posted this question to Facebook recently and I couldn't resist sharing it because it is a common sentiment among nearly every single person I talk to.

Question: Do you feel like something must be wrong with YOU when your house isn't clean? Why?

Answer: What many people attribute when they think of a "clean" house is usually really a neat, tidy and/or organized house. And every single one of my clients feels somehow inadequate or less than because it isn't organized.

The "clean" house is quick and easy - run a dust cloth and a vacuum and you can be fairly done.

The organized house, however, is a different animal.

In the disorganized house filled with clutter, what you're really looking at are days/weeks/months/years of unmade decisions. To turn around and make multiple, quick decisions about things you've been putting off is much harder and takes a lot longer than swiping a dust cloth. Combine that with never learning how to organize (yes, it can be a learned skill) or just not having the visual/spatial abilities to see where things can best go (If you sucked at Tetris, this may not be your skill set either) and it's a recipe for feeling bad about yourself.

There is no reason to feel bad about yourself if your home is a mess. Typically, the messy home is an outward sign of something else that is going on. What is important, is to take action so you'll stop feeling bad. Start with any flat surfaces and move on from there. The more you do, the better you'll feel.

Do you have a burning question? Perhaps just a simmering one? Send it to heyred@melindamassie.com.