Put Things in Proper Perspective
When you're in the business of motivating people to let go of their clutter and get organized, you can easily run across some resistant attitudes.
If we’re being honest here – and when are we not? – too many people out there just have a crap-ass attitude in general. After all, it is easier to...choose the negative, blame others, pass the buck instead of face whatever it is head on.
Don't do that. Don’t be the person.
Do not choose to participate in other people’s “woe is me” attitude, Sunshines.
When you feel a bitch session coming on, ask yourself how you can switch your perspective. No matter what it is, there’s always another way to look at it.
You CAN make that choice.
- “I’m single and live alone. I have to clean up this mess by myself.” – Remember that you made this mess all by yourself so now’s the time to face and change it. The best part? You don’t have to jack around with anyone else’s junk! Sooooo many people WISH they only had their things to deal with. PLUS, once it’s done you’re the only one that has to keep up with it. You don’t have to try and retrain a whole household. How fabulous is that??? (Side note for those that do have to deal with other people’s things and retrain the whole house – you get to teach your child(ren) a skill that will serve them for life. Many of my clients come to me because they never learned how to maintain a neat and organized home while they were growing up. You’re seeing to it that your children won’t have to hire a “me” later in life. That’s pretty fabulous too.)
- “This takes too long.” – This in an investment in your health and sanity that will last you a lifetime. A LIFETIME. Life. Time. What is a lifetime of beautiful, organized home worth to you? (Side note - bitching only adds to the time it's taking so you may as well cut it out.)
- “It’s just me. Who cares?” – This one kills me every time. I hear it most often with cooking for one. Is cooking for one a pain in the ass? Can be. (Which is why I’m writing this book.) But don’t you think you’re worth it??? Just because you’re single doesn't mean that you should be relegated to a life of ramen and take-out. That’s BULLSHIT!!! Because you’re single you should be MORE focused on taking care of yourself. Self-care IS your support system and insurance against the stresses of life. Care about you.
- I had a client whose mother practically bathed in olive oil. The amount of olive oil we found amongst her mother’s things was astounding. It became comical. We found partially used bottles of olive oil EVERYWHERE. I still laugh just thinking about it. Amongst her mother’s things, we found a lovely blanket that had been a special gift from my client. It was saturated in olive oil. Originally, my client was really upset that her mother’s EVOO habit ruined the blanket. Upon looking at it from a different perspective, my client was comforted by the fact that her mother loved the gift SO MUCH that she used it all the time, thus covering it in olive oil.
- “I can’t do it.” – Says who??? (OK…if it’s the law, I’ll grant you that.) Where is this "can’t" coming from? Whether it’s external sources or internal, limiting beliefs (We’re naturally afraid of change – even if it’s for the good.), tell them they’re crazy and go for it anyway. Like Henry Ford says, “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.”
Whether it’s letting go of heaps of clutter and what’s holding you back, cooking and caring for yourself, or doing anything else your heart desires, perspective is everything. Will it be difficult at first? Of course. Changing old habits takes time and patience. Will you fall into the apparent ease of cranky from time to time? Yep. It is the easier choice. Which is why there’s something that clients and friends of mine hear when they start getting cranky:
Because here’s the thing. Bitching? Never works. It accomplishes ZERO while taking up all sorts of energy and head-space. So quit it. You are absolutely worth the best there is. You’re worth the positive. You’re worth unbelievable fabulousness. And if nobody else has ever told you, I’m telling you now. Bookmark this and reread these last couple of lines as often as necessary until it sinks into your bones.
You are worth more.
Quitcherbitchin. Change your perspective. Feel the lightness and ease that comes with that.
Is there something you’re having a hard time switching perspective with? Leave a note in the comments and I'll try to help you gain a better or at least different perspective. Too personal to have out there on the interwebs? Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.